Have you ever noticed how your interpretation of words or situations shapes your experience? Whether you see kindness or hostility, the perspective you choose becomes your truth. The question is: Are you being intentional about the reality you’re creating?

The Power of Choosing Your Reality

Recently, I came across a Reddit post about a man who had just gone through a breakup. When his ex’s friends saw him, they said, “I’ll pray for you.” He wasn’t sure if they were being sincere or passive-aggressive. In the discussion, I shared how I’d choose to take their words as genuine, thank them sincerely, and move on. Someone replied, saying I was being passive-aggressive.

But here’s the thing—I wasn’t. I was choosing to interpret their words in the best possible way because I don’t care to carry someone else’s negativity. My focus is on what I allow into my life: kindness and love.

The truth is, our perspective is a choice. If you choose to see negativity, you’ll find it everywhere. If you choose to see love and sincerity, even in ambiguous moments, you create a reality that feels lighter and more peaceful.

Intentional Communication Shapes Your World

How often do you let your assumptions cloud your interactions? For example, I once visited a store where the salesperson was on a personal call. I found what I needed on my own, though, when I turned to to check out something else, she followed me around the store. When I shared this with my son, Keegan, he was livid: “Mom, that was racist!” He became even angrier when I said, “No, she was just being stupid.”

Keegan believes I’m oblivious because I rarely interpret situations as racist toward me. But my perspective shapes my reality. I choose not to default to seeing malice unless it’s undeniable because that choice creates a more peaceful world for me.

Now think about your own life:

Do you tend to assume the worst in people’s words or actions?

Could you be creating unnecessary tension by holding onto those assumptions?

How might your world feel different if you shifted your perspective?


Living Authentically in Your Perspective

“What self-respecting 40-year-old lives with their parents?” A woman referring to her son moving in after spinal surgery asked. I responded, “If you’re Chinese or Caribbean, single, and live in near family, you live at home.” She said, “That’s just wrong!” I added, “No wonder your kids don’t visit you.” She paused, then burst out laughing.

This wasn’t about being rude—it was about being real. Blunt truth, when delivered with authenticity, has a way of cutting through pretense and inviting reflection.

As Revelers of Authenticity, we choose to create a reality based on openness, kindness, and intentional communication. We understand that our perspective shapes our world—so we align it with the life we want to live.

Your Turn

Take a moment to reflect:

Are you holding onto perspectives that limit your reality?

How might your relationships change if you gave people the benefit of the doubt?

What would shift if you intentionally chose to see sincerity, kindness, or love first?


Let’s shape our reality with intention. The world we create begins with the perspective we hold.